Kids don’t make it complicated!

My boyfriend and I were looking at a tiny house that I admired online.

He said: “It’s all very well, but have you noticed how all these people in tiny houses don’t ever have kids? It would never work!”

I took what he said at face value, and laid my tiny house dreams aside for a while. Maybe tiny houses and families didn’t work. Maybe he was right. Maybe it was nothing but a pipe dream.

Outside the box

But then, maybe they do work. Maybe they can work.

Maybe we’ve got our thinking all wrong.

I mean, why should we throw out ideas and dreams just because kids are around?

You know, when I was a kid living in suburban Australia and my Dad suddenly got offered a job in Hong Kong for three years, my parents didn’t say, “It would never work!”

Instead, they just up and sold our house and dragged my brother and me halfway across the globe to Causeway Bay and an apartment seven floors up.

For us, it was an adventure!

I grew up in Hong Kong. It was a big change from suburban Australia. Kids cope with anything, as long as they're loved and cared for.

I grew up in Hong Kong. It was a big change from suburban Australia. Kids cope with anything, as long as they’re loved and cared for.

And we loved it, and we learned, and we grew. And we had some of the best years of our lives together.

Don’t throw the dream away…

What I’m saying is, maybe our generation has grown cautious. Maybe I’ve grown cautious. We’re sold this idea in our society that kids have to grow up a certain way, live in a certain way.

But kids live all different ways all over the world. As long as they’re loved and cared for, they grow up just fine.

My kids will be just fine. No matter where I live.

Even in a tiny house.

So I’m bringing my tiny house dream back to life again. I’m not sure I’ll give it life, create our own tiny reality or not, but I’m not throwing it away. I just haven’t decided yet. But I’m not ruling it out.

Because I know now: kids don’t make things complicated. It’s we adults that do that.

I know that, whatever I decide, my family will be just fine. Wherever we live.

10 thoughts on “Kids don’t make it complicated!

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  2. Why not go for a compromise? Somewhere between what you had before and a tiny house? You could still have something smaller, more minimalist and then decide if you still want to downsize even further.
    There is also the option of container homes, I’ve seen people put 2 or more shipping containers together to make their space bigger for children, see ‘California DIY, shipping container tiny home and a cargo trailer bedroom’ on youtube, it’s a video of one woman and how she did it with her daughter. She was forced into the situation but obviously you could do more planning and so on before you decide to do that. It would maybe work better for you to combine 2-3 shipping containers than a 120sq ft tiny home while your kids are still with you.
    Keep us updated!
    -Roe

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    • @Roe – I think I probably will go for a compromise, and in the end buy something small rather than something tiny. But the point that I realised was that I didn’t have to rule things out because of kids.

      Too often we use kids as an excuse not to live life or do things or make choices. What I realised was that I was using my kids as an excuse. I don’t want to do that. But at the opposite end of things, I don’t want to use my kids as an excuse any longer to have the huge house, the station wagon (yes, prior to my tiny 3 door hatch I had a station wagon!), and so on.

      We don’t have to live any particular way because of kids. All we need to do with kids is love them and care for them as best we can. The consumer stuff is all optional. I just wish I’d realised that so many years ago! But better late than never! 🙂

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      • Sorry if I was unclear – I meant my comment to read that you didn’t have to rule out the possibility of going smaller because of having children; I hope it came across that way! It can be hard to get across meaning sometimes online.
        And I agree, better late than never! I look back and cringe at how I used to shop, but I still (hopefully) have many years ahead of me that I can shape differently. This is the beauty of life, we learn all the time and have ‘eureka’ moments which change the course of our lives, sometimes in small ways and sometimes in bigger ways. Minimalism was definitely a big eureka for me as I am sure it was for you also. 🙂
        Have a great weekend,
        -Roe

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      • Minimalism has definitely been a “eureka” for me too! I remember thinking, as a kid, that 30 would be sooooooo old! LOL. Now here I am in my 40s with so much more to learn. I just hope I can fit everything in that I want to do in my life!

        Have a great weekend too 🙂

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  3. As both a father and a tiny house enthusiast I am pleased to chime in my opinion here. I completely agree that the adults make the situations complicated and children can handle any situation as long as you make it fun and appealing. Of course the children don’t have much input especially during early ages but as their parent they trust you. I am a married father of 2 (4 and almost 1). We currently live in a 1,000 sq ft apartment but our dream is to live in a tiny home. We are currently in the design and saving stage. I feel providing the kids with their “own” space is important but so is a close sense of family. Every family is different and so is everyone’s situation but we are choosing this lifestyle because as parents we feel the places and events we experience as a family are more important than materialistic items. If you are dreaming about it then you are a step closer to making it a reality.

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    • “Tiny house enthusiast” – I like the sound of that! 🙂

      I think the key to happiness is just figuring out what is right for us, for our families, regardless of what society as a whole is doing. This McMansion trend is nuts! I don’t get it! And I do feel like I’m an oddball, taking my kids to school in my tiny 3 door hatch when I’m surrounded by these massive four wheel drive tank-cars!

      But I don’t feel odd inside. I feel right. Everything I’m doing, the direction I’m moving in, feels so right. I don’t want to spend my life paying for stuff i don’t need, and looking after it, and cleaning it, and maintaining it. That’s a fool’s path. Or it seems so to me.

      If you’re looking at tiny homes, your kids will cope just fine, because it is the right path for you. I’m looking forward to seeing what you do! 🙂

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  4. I grew up in a tiny house (50% of my time with my dad). It was a rustic cabin built by my dad in 1979. It had electricity but no running water/indoor plumbing. The cabin was 20×20 and it had a 10′ sleep loft. My dad, brother, and I all had our own beds in the loft but it was a shared space. We stayed with our dad in the cabin until he sold it when I was 10 (he got remarried). I was very content as a child running in the woods, making mud pies, not having television. I engaged in a lot of creative play and here in the NorthEast (USA) when a snow storm or hurricane cuts the power – I never worry because I was raised on ‘rustic’. I say go for it!

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