If society tells us to take one path, and our heart is telling us to take another, then follow your heart. Stop being so wise. It’s time to be joyful and silly. Stop being so grownup.
Clap your hands and start believing in fairies again.
I believe that most of us do truly know what we want and what makes us happy.
It’s just that everyday, in a multitude of ways, we get so many messages telling us to do something else, to look in other directions.
We’re told that it’s foolish to backpack the world when we leave school. Instead, we should go straight to college and get that accounting degree. Take the sensible choice! Make the wise decision!
Instead of saving to make that parachute jump we always dreamed of, we should renovate our bathroom or buy a new car. A much better use of our money! Such a great investment!
But when I look back on my life and all the goodness I can suck from it, like marrow from a bone – all those incredible memories that make my life so rich and full – it isn’t the wise decisions that thrill me.
It’s those joyful, unwise choices that gave me purposeless, endless pleasure that I have relived over and over again. They’re what have made my life such an amazing adventure through time, not the wise decisions.
Some of my best moments…
The time I ran laughing into ice cold water at the beach with my best friend, only to find wild dolphins swimming there.
And the time I went paragliding in Queenstown, and leaped off a cliff, with only the wind and a few strings and light fabric to hold me up in the sky.
The time I went drinking grappa in Bologna, Italy, with my ex and a friend at a bar, and couldn’t find our way back to our hotel afterwards, we were so tipsy.
The time I first lifted more than 100 kgs (220 lbs) in deadlift.
And the moment I first held my newborn son in my arms.
None of these choices were wise or sensible. None of them made me wealthier. Some made me considerably poorer. But all of them gave my life wholeness and completion and fulfillment.
They made me happy. And I’d do them again in a heartbeat.
Life is meant to be silly, and unwise, and fun, and foolish, and unbalanced, and scary. We’re supposed to make the decisions that our hearts want us to make. We’re supposed to believe in fairies and search for that second star to the right.
So take the plunge. Go running into the ice cold water. Leap off that cliff. Don’t be that old, sad person on a death bed with a heart full of regrets.
Instead, let your heart overflow with joy, and share it with those around you.