Too often we try to satisfy the whims of others to try to keep the peace. We join a stamp-collecting club because our best friend loves stamps – even though stamps bore us to bits!
Or we join a basketball team because our partner loves basketball. Except we hate basketball!
Whenever we pretend to be something we’re not, we’re lying to our friends, our partners, and most of all ourselves. We’re not being honest with anyone.
When we lie to those we care about in this way, we weaken who we are.
True strength comes from learning who and what we are inside – learning who our authentic self is – and building on it.
Minimalism centers us
Minimalism helps us find our centre, and clear all the mental clutter that others would dump at us.
If you feel like others are trying to tell you who to be, what to like, what to wear, what hobbies to do, what interests to follow – minimalism can help you.
Simply eliminate everything that doesn’t bring you joy. I’d clarify that by suggesting that you discard anything that doesn’t resonate with your genuine self.
You’ll know what doesn’t resonate by the fact that it just won’t feel right. You’ll feel like you’re filling someone else’s shoes, or playing a role in a production. It might work for a little while, but you’ll know all the while that it’s just not really you.
So if it doesn’t feel right, let it go.
Have a break.
Take some time away to think and reflect.
Anyone who makes you feel stressed, sad, or uncertain – take a break from them.
Anything that makes you feel overwhelmed, anxious or tired – quit it a month then decide if it’s truly important after all.
Eliminate clothes that feel uncomfortable, hobbies that drain you. Give some time back to yourself this holiday season.
Spend time with loved ones.
Reconnect with family.
Find your own sacred space – not someone else’s.
Re-discover your sense of who you truly are.
Find your freedom.
Be true to yourself.